Today [8/24/2020] I watched Micheal Todd’s Part 2 to his Relationship Goals series, as well as a Monday/Marriage Mindset live on Instagram [@chelena_b]. Both of things I grasped new information, but also confirmation of some things I already knew. These two things led me to my topic: Let’s Talk About Being Single and Not Dating. Realistically no one wants to be single…why?? Sadly, because most of us can’t handle being alone!!
Us not wanting to be alone causes us to stay in relationships that no longer brings us joy. We’re willing to stay in this relationship miserable because we just refuse to be single. The new term for having encounters with somebody and not in a relationship is an “entanglement”. I’ve had my share of experiences with staying in a relationship trying to hold on to someone who really wasn’t meant for me anymore, as well as settling for an “entanglement” just to continue to have a piece of a certain person.
Those actions only lead to you disrespecting yourself; if you show you don’t respect yourself no one else will. Once I broke free from it my life started to take a change for the better. I was able to grow personally and focus on loving me. I’m also grateful for those times because I learned a lot; the main thing I learned is what “not” to put up with ever again.
Why should you be grateful for your singleness:
-You have no obligations to no one, but you! [start accomplishing those goals]
-You have time to find yourself [personal growth]
-You have time to heal from your past [can’t move on efficiently without addressing it]
-You’re not alone [you still have family & friends]
-You discover what it is you really want [no settling]
-Once you truly love who you are, you’ll be able to love others
I truly believe when you’re focused on bettering your life things will begin to look up for you; I’m a living example of that. Eventually the person you are meant to be with and you will find each other, but for the time being there’s no reason you shouldn’t be preparing for that person. While you prepare for that person it’s really just you being strong enough to live and enjoy life without using someone else to “make you happy”. You need to be whole within yourself first; another person’s companionship is an addition to your life not the solution. EMBRACE YOUR SINGLENESS! If you are single and not dating I hope this helps or maybe you can pass it along to someone who may need it. Until next time, always remember DEMI IS ROOTING FOR YOU AND WISHES YOU THE BEST!
