Week after week I am getting closer and closer at being a mother. This is giving me a lot of moments of reflection literally each and every day. I believe wholeheartedly there’s no such thing as being a perfect parent, but there’s such a thing as being an intentional parent. I haven’t gotten my feet wet with this parenting thing yet, but I do know I will strive to be an intentional parent.
When it comes to raising a beautiful black boy in this world everything his father and I will teach him will be intentional. I want my son to be prepared in every aspect of life and even when the mistakes arise he knows how to come back from them.
One’s child doesn’t deserve to only be cared for financially; because this is not the only thing that’s important to a child’s development.
A child deserves to have a “healed” parent; when you become a parent you are responsible for a whole human. I believe it’s much harder to parent when you’re not whole within. I can’t imagine preparing to raise my son without feeling whole, having my basic needs met, and being in a great space peacefully.
Even if you’ve made some mistakes while parenting, you can still learn from those choices. If any of those choices hurt your child, be willing to address those things with your child. The main reason why is to ensure there’s no damage done and/or to apologize for what has affected them.
When a whole parent is present, there will be some fundamental development that will be instilled:
-Safety and Survival
-Understanding and Growth
-Connection (love) and Acceptance
-Esteem and Identity
-Self-Direction, Freedom, and Justice
-Self-Fulfillment
Other Things Every Child Deserves:
-Basic Needs: Food, Shelter, and Clothing
-Security
-Stability/Structure
-Emotional Support
-Love/Happiness
-Consistency
-Education
-Positive Role Models
Remember on the road to parenting a healthy and happy you will only bring a healthy and happy parent! I AM ALWAYS ROOTING FOR YOU; I HOPE YOU’RE ROOTING FOR ME AS WELL!
