While going throughout life there will be some decisions we make and circumstances we find ourselves in that we may not be the most proud of. These circumstances and decisions are things we share with the close people [spouse, family, friends, etc.] in our lives. We can all assume once we tell those who love us something that disturbs them, they will be offering their opinions/advice soon after we’re done talking.
Now y’all….if you know you don’t want someone’s feedback PLEASE state that at the beginning. For example, “I really need to vent and get some things off my chest; can you please just be my listening ear with no feedback in return?”
Now we know that there’s some people who can not resist giving their input; so they’ll tell you up front. And more than likely if that is the original person/people you wanted to share with, you’ll still share with them. Now I’m not in denial of the fact that there are people who can be very judgmental, yes–even when their circumstances are worse than yours.
Why You May Feel People Are Judging You–Fear of Judgment:
*not saying this is true for everyone*
-you want to please others
-have social anxiety
-spend time comparing
-you judge others
BUT this is to shed light on those who genuinely care about your well-being and want to offer advice because they want what’s best for you. Most of us have mastered knowing the people in our lives who are “for you” and knowing how to remove those who are not for you. So if you’ve done the work in removing those that aren’t for you then you should automatically know that those in your circle are only giving their input to help you.
Sometimes we need to take a moment to realize everyone is not judging you. We need to be able to take “criticizing/real talk” in a light where we can dissect it because more than likely it’s some gems in the conversation that will help make us better. Take those conversations in a different light because you may be missing the key information you need to begin flourishing. I am someone who is ALWAYS ROOTING FOR and I’M SURE YOUR CIRCLE IS AS WELL!
