It’s natural to want to share exciting information with those you care about. Those people can be family members, friends, and/or a spouse. Envy is the desire to have a quality, possession, or desirable attribute belonging to someone else. Sometimes you’ll tell people things that bring you joy and excitement and they won’t react how you envisioned they would. Instead of congratulating you or motivating you, they’ll down play the good news or simply dismiss it. It’ll be confusing to you because if the shoe was on the other foot you would genuinely be happy for them.
The reality is that everyone will not always be happy for you. It’s natural for this type of response to hurt you because you naturally care about the people you love opinions. The question at hand is: what are you going to do with the envious people in your life?
You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends and spouse. You also can control how you deal with anybody, family or not.
When Dealing With Envious People:
Don’t Take It Personal:
-Normally people who are envious are dealing with their own issues within themselves
-Some people are just negative and can’t control it.
Ignore!!
-Ignore the envious behavior and don’t validate it
Set Boundaries/Cut Them Off:
-Reduce your interaction with them
-You control who/what you interact with
Learning Lesson-Encourage:
-Encourage the person to begin chasing their goals that they want to accomplish
-This will let them reflect on things they haven’t been working towards
A note for those who find themselves envious/jealous of others remember:
“Stop being jealous of people in their winning season. You don’t know what they lost in their losing season.” We all have a day in time where all the hard times will be worth it because one day you’ll be walking in your winning season. First, it starts with being able to be happy for those who’ve reached their winning season.
Keep in mind that when others can’t be happy for you it normally has nothing to do with you. Some people have things they need to figure out within themselves. When one isn’t happy with themselves, it’s impossible for them to be happy for anybody else. Continue to be who you are and put in the necessary work needed to continue to elevate your life and build towards accomplishing more goals. One day their envious/jealous mindset will shift to a sense of gratitude. Gratitude towards others accomplishments; knowing one day they’ll be able to celebrate their own accomplishments because they’ve learned to celebrate others. CONTINUE PUSHING THROUGH; I’M FOREVER ROOTING FOR YOU!
