As humans we’re only happy about change when it benefits us and feel it’s elevating our lives. We are excited when change has to do with promotions, a new car, new house, or new relationships for example. What’s your perspective when something changes that you didn’t expect? What happens when a relationship or friendship ends? It’s hard coping with that when you planned a future with someone or when someone leaving your life causes you to experience the feelings of heartbreak and loss. As I mentioned in my last post, “It’s okay to feel all of the feelings around your circumstances, but it’s also your duty to yourself to make sure no matter what’s going on around you that you take care of yourself mentally.” Don’t dwell on what’s no longer, focus on what’s current.
In life, it’s sometimes hard to realize that everyone isn’t meant to stay in your life for a lifetime. People are assigned to your life for a reason and a season. Every interaction and time you have with someone has a lesson behind it; one that you might’ve not learned without that individual coming in and leaving your life. So instead of dwelling on the absence of someone, ask yourself: what did that relationship/friendship teach you?
Sometimes people are still in your life because you’re settling. Some reasons we settle:
- Denial
- Comfort
- History
- Love
- Fear of being alone
- Thinking of others feelings
You are the CEO of your life; that means you are in charge of promoting, demoting, and even terminating people from your life. Sometimes it’s not always about people leaving your life sometimes you have to make the change. Everyone isn’t meant to elevate and go to the next level with you. If you can’t take a stand for your life; you’ll end up in a lot of situations that you could’ve prevented. Always remember to be an advocate for yourself and your own happiness. Thanks for stopping by to talk!
