Let’s Talk About Going At Your “OWN” Pace

In this day and age everything is posted on social media. Social media is a great way to discover new ideas, to network, build a brand and an audience. Social media can also be used in a sense where people are posting their everyday life, as well as their accomplishments or even materialistic things they own. This can become an easy way to begin comparing your life to others. Not only with social media it can take place with conversations with family and friends on their progress in life. You might begin to compare the progress someone is making to the progress you are/are not making. Even if this isn’t purposely done, sometimes it’s naturally done. A psychologist Leon Festinger acknowledged this theory in 1954 called Social Comparison Theory. He suggested that people have an innate drive to evaluate themselves, often in comparison to others.  

Some thoughts people can naturally have:

• ”I’m 22 I still haven’t finished my degree; I’ll be in undergrad longer than 4 years.”
• “My mother was married with children by 35; I’m 34 and single and can’t seem to find someone.”
• ”Their business is booming and I can’t seem to get people to purchase items from me.”

Always remember we are our own worst critic; there might be something that someone acknowledge about you that you’re doing well that you might not have thought of. This may take place because you’re so busy worried about what you have not accomplished yet. It’s good to know that you want more for yourself, BUT it’s also a good thing to sit back and celebrate the Little Wins; it’ll make you appreciate the Big Wins even more when you get there. We talked about this to say, make sure in life you’re going at your own pace. Life is not a race. 

We all may have similar goals in mind, but that doesn’t mean our route and timeframe to get there will be the same. There might be some things in life you have to experience, such as struggles that will help build patience and character. All those things will make your success story more significant than the next person.

“Go  easy on yourself. Everyone has their own pace. Persistence is as important as productivity.” -Nancy Grossman

Until Next Time!!!!